tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6414826739553623574.post5050370878838360549..comments2024-03-26T16:06:54.317-04:00Comments on Reflections From The Bell Curve: On The Other Hand... Pat Bartonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15461263795359198289noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6414826739553623574.post-4272223095905372172012-09-03T04:03:40.934-04:002012-09-03T04:03:40.934-04:00Steve; Responses like this are the main reason I s...Steve; Responses like this are the main reason I started this blog. It's so wonderful to know other people's stories and I particularly love your ending words about "...honoring that mystery..." and being the "...guardians of each other's privacy...". Thanks for such a from-the-heart comment. Patnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6414826739553623574.post-22009732770217028512012-09-02T15:58:35.118-04:002012-09-02T15:58:35.118-04:00I told Karen about your previous post and this one...I told Karen about your previous post and this one. We both agreed that there many differences between our talents and interests but our commonalities keep us together. We both love music across a broad spectrum. You'll find CD's and DVD's on our shelves that range from Celine Dion to Mahler. We both love movies of all genres. We're both avid readers but Karen reads more and I tend to be next in line for the book she loved. Karen is however much more adept at keeping connections to family and friends alive whereas I, with 4 sisters and 2 brothers, sputter and fizzle over staying caught up with their lives. She also is better at "reading" the emotional content of our lives together and the immediate consequences for the present and future. I think the main attribute we share is our curiosity about life in general, where have we been, what has life taught us, and of course where are we going. This summer, Karen had total shoulder replacement surgery and helping her get through her hospital stay and the at-home recovery period really brought us closer. She was in an arm sling, on pain medication and needing icing around the clock. Bathroom, bathing and yes, even putting her hair in a passable braid or pony tail, all very care intensive! Glad it's over but it taught me a lot about being a care giver, about reaching deeper to be there for her. Karen's take is that we have much more in common than different as couple and I agree completely with her. Although I would also add that there is the "X" factor at work. I think mutual attraction can be "itemized", i.e. common likes and dislikes. However there is always something intangible about how a we relate. I like to think there is something important about honoring that mystery. Ultimately we are the guardians of each other's privacy. It also helps like hell to keep that physical attraction alive!Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07838159361836205726noreply@blogger.com