Whenever capturing a kernel in my blog notebook that has potential to later put me on my high horse as I compose a post, I frequently add an admonishment right alongside the kernel. Of late, the one that seems to work best is "Be careful, Pat". Kind of a written equivalent of counting to ten before opening my mouth.
When e-mail first became popular, I recall once being instructed not to send anything written while angry or otherwise upset. It's possible that long-ago instruction prompted me to begin admonishing myself in my notebook. But even if there is no connection, being more deliberate before publishing 2600 blog posts has had some unintended and welcome consequences in my face-to-face interactions. I'm both more tactful and marginally less judgmental than I was fifteen years ago.Though no one is likely to mistake me for a Zen master, it's gratifying to feel myself growing. And my plan? Continue jotting down reminders to be careful. What strategies help you avoid that high horse?
This is your Blog. Be the genuine self that pleases you. I don’t believe you should twist and turn to be careful or avoid your instincts as to who you are, what you believe, and what you want to put out to the world….or to your blog. As one who blogs you are not trying to please other people. You are sharing your thoughts and making yourself vulnerable to your readers reactions. Read what your subscribers have to say and respond as to how you feel comfortable.
ReplyDeleteI believe this approach also applies to your readers and those who comment. Bloggers and responders are not looking for pats on the back,….(sorry…couldn’t resist that) or for accolades about their thoughts and opinions. They are looking for discourse and an exchange of ideas. Unless comments are truly belligerent and rude then smart conversation can continue.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the 10 count rule. It is always wise to have a little reflection or perhaps perspective prior to sending off an email or writing a post/blog. I have not done that and regretted my knee jerk reaction. So, I salute you for bringing that into the conversation. Strategies: breathe and put it aside. Sometimes works, sometimes doesn't. As with other of your posts, a work in progress:).
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