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Monday, December 26, 2016

Drama Vs. Facade

How many of you spent significant time with family over this holiday season? Compared to previous years, was there more, less, or about the same amount of drama?

Around Thanksgiving, I began reflecting on which is more exhausting - family drama or the effort it takes to maintain a façade around people who are not family. Your view? Are you more worn out after a family squabble - holiday version or otherwise - or after a non-family event requiring obligatory small talk and a perpetual smile?

I've concluded my fatigue level following either scenario is roughly equal. Almost without fail, I need a nap soon after family drama or façade-building. And though I used to think the latter did more long term damage to my soul, a shift in that perspective also seems to be underway. Stay tuned.


  1. You make me so sad, Pat. We both know that sincerity is always the best approach when talking to people. Just look how far it's gotten me with you. But don't despair. When your beard turns fully white, all you'll be expected to say at holiday gatherings is "ho-ho-ho!" Happy New Year, my friend. Think I'll go take a nap now.

  2. Just solved my Cryptoquote in the Asbury Park Press: "If you reject the food, ignore the customs, fear the religion and avoid the people, you might better stay at home." -James Michener